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Wedding Planning Guide 2026

Everything you need to plan your dream wedding — from budget tools and vendor guides to month-by-month checklists and etiquette advice. Your love story deserves a flawless celebration.

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Your month-by-month wedding planning checklist — from "Yes!" to "I do."

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In-Depth Planning Guides

Expert advice and practical tips for every aspect of your wedding.

01

How to Set a Realistic Wedding Budget

The very first step in wedding planning isn't choosing a venue or picking a color palette — it's setting a realistic budget. Money conversations may not feel romantic, but they're the foundation for every decision that follows. A clear budget prevents stress, avoids debt, and ensures you invest in what truly matters to you as a couple.

Start with your total number. Sit down with your partner and any contributing family members to determine how much you can comfortably spend. Be honest about savings, expected contributions, and how much you're willing to finance. The average American wedding costs $30,000-$35,000, but your wedding should reflect your finances, not a national average.

Use the standard budget breakdown as a starting point, then adjust based on your priorities:

  • Venue & Rentals: 40% — This is your biggest line item. An all-inclusive venue can simplify budgeting since catering, tables, and linens may be included.
  • Catering & Bar: 25% — Expect $75-$200+ per guest for food and drink. Brunch or lunch receptions can cut this by 30%.
  • Photography & Video: 10% — Your photos are the lasting keepsake. Don't skimp here.
  • Flowers & Decor: 8% — Seasonal blooms and greenery-heavy designs save significantly.
  • Attire & Beauty: 5% — Dress, suit, alterations, hair, and makeup.
  • Music & Entertainment: 5% — DJ packages start around $1,000; live bands from $3,000+.
  • Invitations & Paper: 3% — Digital options can drastically reduce this cost.
  • Everything Else: 4% — Favors, transportation, officiant, marriage license, and a contingency cushion.

Pro tip: Build a 5-10% contingency fund into your budget. Unexpected costs — last-minute guest additions, weather-related rentals, or overtime charges — are virtually guaranteed. Couples who plan for the unexpected report significantly less financial stress throughout the process.

Use our interactive Budget Calculator below to see exactly how your total budget breaks down across every category, and adjust allocations in real time.

02

Choosing Your Perfect Wedding Venue: Indoor vs. Outdoor

Your venue sets the entire tone for your wedding — it determines the formality, aesthetic, guest experience, and often a significant portion of your budget. Choosing between indoor and outdoor (or a venue offering both) is one of the most consequential decisions you'll make.

Outdoor Weddings offer breathtaking natural backdrops — think vineyards, garden estates, beaches, or mountain overlooks. Natural light is a photographer's dream, and the scenery often reduces the need for extensive decor. However, outdoor celebrations require a solid Plan B. Even in "perfect weather" months, a sudden rain shower can derail an unprotected event. Ensure your venue offers a covered backup space or budget for a tent rental ($2,000-$10,000+ depending on size).

Indoor Weddings provide year-round reliability. Hotel ballrooms, historic estates, loft spaces, and restaurants offer climate control, built-in lighting, and often in-house catering and coordination staff. The trade-off is that you may need to invest more in decor to personalize a blank-slate ballroom, and natural photo opportunities may be limited.

Questions to ask every venue:

  • What is the maximum guest capacity for both ceremony and reception?
  • What is included in the rental fee? (Tables, chairs, linens, staff, parking?)
  • Are there noise curfews, vendor restrictions, or exclusive catering requirements?
  • What is the rain plan or inclement weather policy?
  • How many hours does the rental include, and what are overtime fees?
  • Is there a bridal suite and/or separate getting-ready spaces?
  • What does the deposit and cancellation policy look like?

The hybrid advantage: Many modern venues — barn estates with covered pavilions, hotels with garden courtyards, restaurants with rooftop terraces — offer the best of both worlds. You get the safety of an indoor backup while enjoying outdoor beauty. Book site visits at the same time of day and season as your planned wedding to see realistic lighting and conditions.

Visit at least 3-5 venues before deciding, and always read contracts carefully. Check our Venue Comparison Table for a side-by-side look at different venue types, costs, and what's typically included.

03

Wedding Photography: What to Look For

When the flowers have wilted, the cake is eaten, and the music has faded, your photographs are what remain. Wedding photography is one of the most important investments you'll make — these images become family heirlooms passed down for generations. Here's how to find the right photographer for your day.

Understand photography styles. Not all wedding photographers shoot the same way. Traditional/classic photography focuses on posed, well-lit portraits and formal group shots. Photojournalistic/documentary captures candid moments as they unfold naturally. Fine art photographers create magazine-worthy, editorially styled images with dramatic composition. Moody/dark and dramatic uses shadows and rich tones for emotional impact. Most modern photographers blend two or more of these styles — review full galleries (not just highlight reels) to understand what you'll actually receive.

Key questions for your photographer:

  • How many weddings have you shot at my venue or similar venues?
  • Can I see a full gallery from a recent wedding, not just curated highlights?
  • How many edited images will I receive, and what's the turnaround time?
  • Do you have a second shooter? (Essential for 100+ guest weddings)
  • What happens if you're ill or have an emergency on my wedding day?
  • Do you provide a shot list, or do you prefer to work organically?
  • What is your editing style, and can it be customized?

Budget expectations: Professional wedding photography ranges from $2,500 for newer photographers to $10,000+ for established artists. Most couples spend $3,500-$6,000. Packages typically include 6-10 hours of coverage, a second photographer, an online gallery, and 400-800+ edited images. Albums, prints, and engagement sessions are often add-ons.

Red flags to watch for: Photographers who won't show full galleries, have no backup plan, require full payment upfront with no contract, or deliver heavily filtered images that mask inconsistency. Always sign a detailed contract specifying deliverables, timeline, and cancellation terms.

Remember: you'll spend more time looking at your wedding photos than you spent at the wedding itself. This is one area where quality truly pays for itself.

04

Planning Your Wedding Menu: Plated vs. Buffet vs. Food Stations

Food is often what guests remember most about a wedding — even more than the decor or music. Your catering choice also represents one of the largest budget items, typically 25% of your total spend. Understanding the three main service styles will help you choose what fits your vision, budget, and guest experience.

Plated Dinner Service is the most formal option. Each guest receives a pre-selected or choice-of-entrée meal served directly to their seat. Plated dinners create an elegant, orchestrated experience where the meal becomes a defined course of the evening. Average cost: $100-$200+ per person. Pros: refined, controlled timing, less food waste. Cons: higher staffing costs, less variety, requires entrée choices on RSVP cards.

Buffet Service offers guests a selection of dishes to serve themselves. Buffets feel more relaxed and social, with greater variety — guests can try everything and go back for seconds. Average cost: $75-$150 per person. Pros: variety, lower per-person cost, accommodates dietary needs easily. Cons: longer service time (stagger table releases!), potential for waste, lines can disrupt conversation.

Food Stations are the trendy middle ground — themed mini-buffets placed throughout the reception space (e.g., a carving station, pasta bar, sushi station, taco station). Guests mingle while exploring different offerings. Average cost: $85-$175 per person. Pros: interactive, Instagram-worthy, great conversation starter, distributes guests across the room. Cons: requires more space, can be logistically complex, may need more staffing.

Questions for your caterer:

  • Can we schedule a tasting before committing?
  • How do you handle dietary restrictions (vegan, gluten-free, kosher, halal, allergies)?
  • What's included in the per-person price? (Staff, china, linens, bar?)
  • Do you provide bar service or is that separate?
  • What is your staffing ratio per guest?

Budget-saving tips: Choose a brunch or lunch reception (30% savings on food and bar), opt for beer and wine instead of a full open bar, use seasonal ingredients, and consider a dessert bar with your wedding cake instead of a separate dessert course. Many couples also do family-style service — platters on the table for guests to share — which feels intimate and costs less than plated.

05

Wedding Flowers: Seasonal Guide & Budget-Friendly Alternatives

Wedding flowers transform your venue, complement your attire, and set the romantic mood for your celebration. They also represent roughly 8% of your total budget — and prices can soar when you're set on out-of-season blooms or elaborate installations. Here's how to get gorgeous florals without breaking the bank.

Seasonal flower guide:

  • Spring (March-May): Peonies, tulips, ranunculus, lilac, sweet pea, hyacinth, daffodils. Springtime offers the widest variety and most romantic options.
  • Summer (June-August): Garden roses, dahlias, sunflowers, hydrangeas, zinnias, lavender. Bold colors and abundance keep prices reasonable.
  • Fall (September-November): Chrysanthemums, marigolds, anemones, protea, amaranthus, bittersweet. Rich, warm tones define the autumn palette.
  • Winter (December-February): Amaryllis, camellias, evergreens, holly, hellebores, paperwhites. Fewer options, but dramatic and elegant. Supplement with candles and greenery.

Budget-friendly alternatives: The floral industry has evolved far beyond traditional arrangements. Greenery-focused designs using eucalyptus, ferns, and olive branches cost 40-60% less than bloom-heavy arrangements and look stunning. Dried flowers and pampas grass create a boho-luxe vibe and can be kept as keepsakes. Silk and high-quality artificial flowers are now virtually indistinguishable from fresh — they're especially smart for boutonnieres and arch installations that endure all day.

Where to save vs. splurge: Splurge on your bridal bouquet and ceremony backdrop — these appear in the most photographs. Save on table centerpieces by using candles, lanterns, or single-stem bud vases instead of large arrangements. Repurpose ceremony flowers at the reception: move your altar arrangements to the head table or cocktail area.

Average costs: Bridal bouquets run $150-$350, bridesmaid bouquets $65-$150 each, boutonnieres $15-$35 each, centerpieces $75-$300 per table, and ceremony arch florals $500-$3,000+. Total floral budgets typically range from $2,000 for minimal designs to $8,000+ for elaborate installations.

Book your florist 6-9 months in advance and bring Pinterest inspiration to your consultation. A skilled florist can replicate an expensive look within your budget by suggesting similar but more affordable bloom substitutions.

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The Complete Guide to Wedding Invitations

Your wedding invitation is your guests' first tangible impression of your celebration — it sets expectations for formality, style, and excitement. From timeline to etiquette to wording, here's everything you need to know about getting your invitations right.

The invitation timeline:

  • 6-8 months before: Send save-the-date cards (especially for destination weddings or peak-season dates).
  • 4-6 months before: Order invitations to allow time for printing, addressing, and assembly.
  • 6-8 weeks before: Mail invitations. For destination weddings, send 3 months out.
  • 3-4 weeks before: RSVP deadline. Follow up on non-responders one week after the deadline.

What to include: The essential components are the host line (who's inviting), the request line ("request the honour of your presence" for religious ceremonies, "request the pleasure of your company" for secular), the couple's names, date and time, venue name and address, reception details, RSVP information, and any dress code. Separate enclosure cards can include directions, accommodation options, the wedding website URL, and entrée selections.

Addressing etiquette: Use formal titles on outer envelopes (Mr. and Mrs. John Smith). Inner envelopes can be less formal (John and Mary). Address to both members of a married couple. For unmarried couples living together, list both names alphabetically on one invitation. Plus-one guests should be indicated as "and Guest" on the inner envelope.

Printing methods and costs: Digital printing ($1-$3 per suite) is the most affordable and offers endless design options. Letterpress ($4-$8 per suite) creates beautiful debossed impressions and a tactile luxury feel. Engraving ($5-$10+ per suite) is the most traditional and formal option. Foil stamping, vellum wraps, wax seals, and hand calligraphy are popular upgrades that add $1-$5+ per piece.

Modern trends for 2026: Wedding websites with digital RSVPs have become standard supplements to paper invitations, reducing response card costs and simplifying guest tracking. Some couples send digital save-the-dates followed by paper invitations. Acrylic invitations, vellum overlays, and hand-torn edges are trending for a luxury touch. Eco-conscious couples are choosing recycled papers, plantable seed paper, or fully digital invitation suites.

Order 15-20% more invitations than your guest count — you'll need extras for keepsakes, mistakes, and last-minute additions.

07

How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

Personal vows have become one of the most meaningful trends in modern weddings. Rather than reciting standard phrases, writing your own vows lets you express what your partner truly means to you — in your own voice. It's also one of the most nerve-wracking tasks on the planning list. Here's how to do it beautifully.

Start early. Give yourself at least 4-6 weeks. Inspiration rarely strikes on demand, so keep a notes app handy and jot down thoughts as they come — during a walk, watching your partner cook, or remembering a moment that defined your relationship. Some of the most powerful vow lines come from everyday observations, not grand poetic gestures.

A simple structure to follow:

  • Opening: Address your partner and set the tone. ("From the moment you..." or "I knew you were different when...")
  • Reflection: Share a specific story, memory, or quality you love about them. Specific details are what make vows memorable — the way they always save the last bite for you, or how they handled a difficult moment.
  • Promises: Make 3-5 specific, meaningful commitments. Mix serious promises ("I will always be your safe place") with lighter ones ("I promise to never judge your 2 AM snack choices").
  • Closing: End with a forward-looking declaration of love and partnership.

Tips for great vows:

  • Keep it to 1-2 minutes (roughly 200-300 words). Longer vows lose the audience and become hard to deliver emotionally.
  • Speak from the heart — your guests want to hear you, not poetry you found online.
  • Humor is welcome! One well-placed laugh makes the emotional moments hit harder.
  • Practice reading aloud at least 5 times. You'll catch awkward phrasing and build confidence.
  • Agree on a general tone and length with your partner so your vows feel complementary, not mismatched.
  • Print your vows on nice card stock or in a small booklet — the visual matters in photos.

If you get emotional: Pause, take a breath, look at your partner, and remember that tears are beautiful. Your officiant can step in briefly if needed. Almost every couple cries during personal vows — your guests will be right there with you.

Write from your heart, and trust that authenticity is always more powerful than perfection.

08

Wedding Day Timeline: Hour-by-Hour Schedule Template

A detailed timeline is the backbone of a smooth wedding day. Without one, vendors arrive at the wrong time, photos get rushed, and you spend precious moments managing logistics instead of enjoying them. Here's a customizable hour-by-hour template for a standard 5:00 PM ceremony.

Morning (8:00 AM - 12:00 PM)

  • 8:00 AM: Wake up, enjoy a calm breakfast. Eat a real meal — it may be your last chance until the reception.
  • 9:00 AM: Hair and makeup begins for the bridal party (allow 45-60 min per person, bride last).
  • 10:00 AM: Groom's party gets ready at a separate location. Steam suits, prepare accessories.

Early Afternoon (12:00 - 3:00 PM)

  • 12:00 PM: Light lunch for both parties (finger foods that won't stain).
  • 1:00 PM: Bride gets dressed. Allow 30-45 minutes for the dress, veil, and jewelry. Photographer captures getting-ready details (shoes, rings, dress hanging).
  • 2:00 PM: First look (if doing one) — typically takes 30-45 minutes including private photos.
  • 2:30 PM: Wedding party photos and family formals — provide a shot list to your photographer.

Pre-Ceremony (3:00 - 5:00 PM)

  • 3:30 PM: Florist completes venue setup. Ceremony chairs arranged.
  • 4:00 PM: DJ/band arrives for sound check. Coordinator does final venue walkthrough.
  • 4:30 PM: Guests begin arriving. Ushers seat guests.
  • 4:50 PM: Wedding party lines up. Bride has private moment with parent/escort.

Ceremony & Reception (5:00 PM onward)

  • 5:00 PM: Ceremony begins (plan for 20-30 minutes).
  • 5:30 PM: Cocktail hour begins. Couple does sunset/golden hour photos (15-20 min).
  • 6:30 PM: Grand entrance and first dance.
  • 6:45 PM: Welcome toast, blessing, and dinner service.
  • 8:00 PM: Toasts and speeches (limit to 3-4 speakers, 3-5 min each).
  • 8:30 PM: Cake cutting, parent dances.
  • 9:00 PM: Open dancing begins.
  • 10:30 PM: Last dance, sparkler exit or send-off.

Build in 15-minute buffers between major transitions. Everything takes longer than planned. Share the final timeline with every vendor, your wedding party, and your coordinator at least one week before.

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Destination Weddings: Planning, Costs & Guest Considerations

Destination weddings combine your celebration with travel for an unforgettable experience. They tend to be smaller, more intimate affairs — with the bonus of a built-in honeymoon location. But they require extra planning, clear communication, and respect for your guests' budgets.

Top destination wedding locations for 2026:

  • Mexico (Cancún, Tulum, Los Cabos): Affordable all-inclusive packages starting at $5,000-$15,000. Short flights from the US. Gorgeous beaches.
  • Caribbean (Jamaica, Aruba, Dominican Republic): Resort packages with dedicated wedding coordinators. $8,000-$20,000 average.
  • Italy (Amalfi Coast, Tuscany, Lake Como): Stunningly romantic but more expensive. $20,000-$60,000+ for venue alone.
  • Hawaii: Domestic destination with tropical beauty. No passports required. $15,000-$40,000 average.
  • Costa Rica: Eco-friendly venues, lush jungle backdrops, affordable. $10,000-$25,000.

Guest considerations: Expect only 50-70% of invited guests to attend a destination wedding (vs. 80-85% for local weddings). Send save-the-dates 8-12 months out so guests can plan time off and save for travel. Create a detailed wedding website with travel info, hotel room blocks, activity suggestions, and a packing guide. It is customary to cover some guest costs (welcome bags, group activities) but not required to pay for flights or hotels.

Legal requirements vary widely. Mexico requires blood tests, Italy requires an Atto Notorio, and some Caribbean islands have residency requirements. Many couples do a legal ceremony at home before or after the destination celebration to simplify paperwork. Research your chosen destination's legal requirements at least 6 months in advance.

Working with a destination wedding planner is strongly recommended — someone who knows local vendors, speaks the language, and understands regional logistics. Many resorts include a coordinator in their wedding packages. Ask for references from recent weddings, not just the resort's marketing materials.

Budget considerations: While per-guest costs may be lower, you'll face additional expenses: welcome bags, group transportation, site visits (plan at least one trip before the wedding), international vendor coordination, and potentially higher vendor costs due to remote locations. Factor in currency exchange rates and tipping customs for your destination.

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Honeymoon Planning: Best Destinations & Budget Tips for 2026

After months of wedding planning, your honeymoon is your well-deserved reward — a chance to decompress, celebrate, and start married life with an incredible shared experience. Whether you dream of a tropical beach, a European adventure, or a cozy mountain retreat, smart planning ensures your trip is as magical as your wedding day.

Trending honeymoon destinations for 2026:

  • The Maldives: Overwater bungalows, world-class snorkeling, and total seclusion. Splurge-worthy at $5,000-$15,000 for 7-10 days.
  • Greece (Santorini, Crete, Mykonos): Stunning sunsets, incredible food, island-hopping. Mid-range: $4,000-$8,000.
  • Japan: A rising honeymoon destination combining ancient temples, cherry blossoms, incredible cuisine, and unique culture. $5,000-$10,000.
  • Portugal (Lisbon, Algarve, Porto): Europe's best-value destination with gorgeous coastlines, wine country, and vibrant cities. $3,000-$6,000.
  • Costa Rica: Adventure + relaxation — zip-lining, hot springs, beaches, and wildlife. Budget-friendly at $2,500-$5,000.
  • New Zealand: For adventure couples — hiking, bungee jumping, fjords, and wine country. $6,000-$12,000.

Budget-saving strategies:

  • Honeymoon fund: Instead of (or alongside) a traditional registry, set up a honeymoon fund where guests contribute to experiences — a sunset sail, a couples' massage, or a wine tour. Guests love funding memorable experiences.
  • Travel off-peak: Going right after a fall or winter wedding? Southeast Asia, Australia, and the Caribbean are in season. Shoulder-season Europe (May or October) offers fewer crowds and lower prices.
  • Use credit card points: If you've been paying wedding vendors with a rewards card, you may have enough points for flights or hotel stays. Start this strategy early in the planning process.
  • Consider a "mini-moon": Take a short 3-4 day trip immediately after the wedding, then plan a bigger honeymoon for a few months later when you're less exhausted and prices may be lower.

Booking timeline: Start researching 6-9 months out. Book flights and hotels 3-6 months before departure for the best rates. Purchase travel insurance — after the expense of a wedding, you want your honeymoon investment protected. Ensure passports are valid for at least 6 months beyond your travel dates, and check visa requirements early.

Your honeymoon doesn't have to be extravagant to be extraordinary. A road trip along the California coast or a cabin in the Smokies can be just as romantic as a tropical paradise if you're sharing it with the person you love.

Wedding Budget Calculator

Enter your total budget and see exactly how your money should be allocated. Adjust percentages to match your priorities.

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Total Allocated: 100%
Total Allocated Amount: $30,000
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Guest List Manager

Enter your guest count and per-head budget to get instant estimates for tables, catering, invitations, and venue size.

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Tables Needed
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Based on 8 guests per round table
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Catering Estimate
$21,000
Food, drink, and service
Invitations Needed
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Approx. 1 per household + 15% extras
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3,600 sq ft
Min. reception space (30 sq ft/guest)

Vendor Comparison Guide

Side-by-side comparisons to help you choose the right vendors for your style and budget.

Photography Packages Comparison

Package Coverage Hours Photographers Edited Photos Deliverables Price Range
Essential 4-6 hours 1 200-400 Online gallery, digital downloads $1,500 - $3,000
Standard 8 hours 1-2 400-600 Online gallery, downloads, engagement session $3,000 - $5,500
Premium 10-12 hours 2 600-800+ Gallery, downloads, engagement session, album $5,500 - $8,000
Luxury Full day + rehearsal 2-3 800+ All above + fine art album, prints, second-day session $8,000 - $15,000+

Venue Types Comparison

Venue Type Capacity Typical Cost Usually Includes Best For Considerations
Hotel Ballroom 100-500+ $5,000 - $25,000 Catering, bar, tables, linens, staff, parking Large formal weddings, out-of-town guests Can feel generic; decor needed to personalize
Outdoor Garden / Estate 50-300 $3,000 - $15,000 Space only; some include coordinator Romantic, photo-friendly, spring/summer Weather backup required; vendor restrictions
Barn / Rustic 75-250 $2,000 - $10,000 Space, basic tables/chairs Casual elegance, country-chic, DIY-friendly May lack AC/heating; restroom availability
Beach 20-200 $1,500 - $10,000 Varies; permits may be needed Intimate ceremonies, destination feel Wind, sand, noise ordinances, tide timing
Restaurant / Private Dining 20-120 $3,000 - $12,000 Food, drink, staff, decor, tables Intimate weddings, foodie couples Limited capacity; less layout flexibility

Catering Styles Comparison

Style Cost Per Person Formality Pros Cons Best For
Plated Dinner $100 - $200+ Formal Elegant, controlled pacing, less waste Higher cost, limited variety, needs RSVP choices Black-tie, traditional, hotel weddings
Buffet $75 - $150 Semi-formal to Casual Variety, lower cost, accommodates diets Lines, harder to time, potential waste Large guest lists, relaxed celebrations
Family-Style $85 - $160 Semi-formal Intimate, shared experience, good photos Requires larger tables, dietary issues Intimate weddings, foodie couples
Food Stations $85 - $175 Semi-formal to Creative Interactive, unique, distributes guests Needs more space and staff Trendy weddings, diverse cuisine themes
Food Trucks $30 - $75 Casual Affordable, fun, unique, customizable Weather dependent, limited seating Outdoor/backyard, casual, budget-conscious

Wedding Etiquette Guide

Quick answers to the etiquette questions every couple faces.

Who Pays for What?

Traditionally: The bride's family covers the ceremony, reception, flowers, and photography. The groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner, officiant fee, marriage license, and honeymoon. Modern approach: Couples increasingly pay for their own wedding, with family members contributing as they're able. Have honest conversations early and express gratitude regardless of amounts.

Plus-One Rules

Married, engaged, and cohabiting couples always get a joint invitation. Long-term partners (6+ months) should be included. Single guests may receive a plus-one, but it's not required — especially with a tight budget. Be consistent within friend groups to avoid hurt feelings. Address invitations to "and Guest" when the plus-one's name is unknown.

Gift Registry Etiquette

Include registry information on your wedding website, not on the invitation itself. Register at 2-3 stores across price points ($25-$300+). It's now acceptable to include a honeymoon fund or cash registry alongside traditional gifts. Send thank-you notes within 3 months of receiving each gift — handwritten notes are the gold standard.

Children at the Wedding

You are not obligated to invite children. If hosting child-free, indicate it on the invitation as "Adults-only reception" or on your wedding website. Make exceptions for nursing infants if comfortable. If children are welcome, consider hiring a babysitter or setting up a kids' area to keep parents relaxed.

Tipping Your Vendors

Standard tips: Caterer/banquet captain: 15-20%. Bartenders: $50-$150 each. DJ: $50-$150. Photographer: $50-$200. Hair/makeup artists: 15-20%. Officiant: $50-$100 (or a donation to their institution). Delivery drivers: $10-$20 each. Prepare tips in labeled envelopes and give them to your coordinator or best man to distribute.

Handling Divorced Parents

Seat divorced parents at separate tables with their respective partners and friends. In the processional, the parent walking the bride/groom goes first. For hosting lines, you can list both parents' names on invitations. Avoid forcing interactions and give each parent a meaningful role. A private moment with each parent before the ceremony can be very special.

Social Media at Your Wedding

Decide your comfort level and communicate it. An "unplugged ceremony" (no phones during the ceremony) keeps aisles clear and guests present. If you allow photos at the reception, create a custom hashtag. Some couples ask guests to wait 24-48 hours before posting so they can share their own photos first. Include your policy on your wedding website.

When to Send Thank-You Notes

For shower gifts: within 2 weeks. For wedding gifts received before the wedding: within 2 weeks of receipt. For wedding day gifts: within 3 months. Each note should mention the specific gift, how you plan to use it, and express genuine gratitude. Pre-stamped, pre-addressed envelopes make this task much less daunting.

Wedding Glossary

Decode all the wedding terminology you'll encounter during planning.

RSVPRépondez s'il vous plaît (French for "please respond"). The guest's formal reply to a wedding invitation indicating attendance.
Escort Card — A card at the reception entrance telling each guest their assigned table number. Different from place cards, which mark specific seats.
Place Card — A small card at each seat indicating the guest's name, used when specific seating is assigned within a table.
Boutonniere — A small floral arrangement worn on the lapel of a suit or tuxedo, typically by the groom, groomsmen, and fathers.
Corsage — A small bouquet of flowers worn on the wrist or pinned to the dress, typically by mothers and grandmothers.
Bodice — The upper part of a wedding dress, from the neckline to the waist, which provides structure and shape.
Bustle — A method of fastening the train of a wedding dress up and off the floor for ease of movement during the reception.
Cathedral Train — The longest train style, extending 6-8 feet beyond the dress, creating a dramatic aisle moment.
Chapel Train — A mid-length train extending 3-4 feet from the waist, a popular choice for formal but not overly dramatic weddings.
Charger Plate — A large decorative plate placed under the dinner plate for aesthetic purposes. Removed before the entrée is served.
Fondant — A smooth, pliable sugar paste used to cover wedding cakes, creating a flawless, sculpted appearance.
Buttercream — A frosting made from butter and sugar, offering a softer, more textured look than fondant and generally preferred for taste.
Ganache — A rich mixture of chocolate and cream used as a filling, glaze, or frosting for wedding cakes.
First Look — A private, pre-ceremony moment where the couple sees each other for the first time in their wedding attire, usually photographed.
Cocktail Hour — The social period between the ceremony and reception, featuring drinks and appetizers while the couple takes photos.
Processional — The formal walk down the aisle at the start of the ceremony — bride's entrance, wedding party, and attendants.
Recessional — The walk back up the aisle at the end of the ceremony, led by the newly married couple.
Officiant — The person who legally performs the marriage ceremony — a minister, judge, justice of the peace, or ordained friend.
Rehearsal Dinner — A dinner held the night before the wedding, typically hosted by the groom's family, for the wedding party and close family.
Ceremony Programs — Printed guides given to guests outlining the ceremony order, participants, and any readings or music.
Save the Date — An early notification (6-8 months before) letting guests know the wedding date, sent before the formal invitation.
A-Line — A universally flattering dress silhouette that fits at the waist and flows out to the floor, resembling the letter A.
Ball Gown — A dramatic dress silhouette with a fitted bodice and a full, voluminous skirt, ideal for formal weddings.
Mermaid/Trumpet — A form-fitting dress that hugs the body and flares out at or below the knee, creating a dramatic silhouette.
Chuppah — A canopy under which Jewish wedding ceremonies are performed, symbolizing the home the couple will build together.
Unity Ceremony — A symbolic ritual during the wedding (sand blending, candle lighting, handfasting) representing the merging of two lives.
Sweetheart Table — A small table for just the bride and groom at the reception, instead of a traditional head table with the wedding party.
Head Table — A long table at the front of the reception where the couple sits with their wedding party.
Centerpiece — The decorative floral or non-floral arrangement placed at the center of each guest table.
Uplighting — Colored LED lights placed around the perimeter of a reception venue to create ambient mood lighting and transform the space.
Corkage Fee — A fee charged by a venue to open and serve wine or spirits that you provide yourself rather than purchasing through the venue.
Day-of Coordinator — A professional who manages the logistics and timeline on the wedding day itself, ensuring everything runs smoothly.
Vellum — A translucent, parchment-like paper used in wedding invitations as overlays for an elegant, layered look.
Calligraphy — Decorative handwriting used on invitations, escort cards, and envelopes to add an artisan, elegant touch.

Frequently Asked Questions

Detailed answers to the most common wedding planning questions.

The average wedding in 2026 costs between $30,000 and $35,000, though costs vary significantly by location. Major metropolitan areas like New York, San Francisco, and Chicago tend to run 20-40% higher than the national average. Rural and smaller-city weddings can often be done beautifully for $15,000-$20,000. Your total will depend on guest count (the single biggest cost driver), venue choice, and the level of customization you desire. Use our Budget Calculator to see a detailed breakdown.

Most wedding planners recommend starting 12-18 months before your desired date. If you're planning a wedding during peak season (May-October) or at a popular venue, 18 months is ideal — top venues and photographers book 12-18 months in advance. For smaller or off-season weddings, 9-12 months is often sufficient. Elopements and micro-weddings can be planned in as little as 2-3 months. Follow our Planning Timeline for a month-by-month breakdown.

Traditionally, 40-50% of your total wedding budget goes toward the venue and catering combined. If your venue includes catering (as most hotels and all-inclusive venues do), this is straightforward. If they're separate, plan for roughly 25-30% venue and 20-25% catering. Venues with more inclusions (tables, linens, staff, bar) command higher percentages but may save you money overall by eliminating separate rental costs.

Average wedding guest counts range from 100-150 guests. Consider your budget ($150-$300 per guest is typical for food, drink, and rental), venue capacity, and personal preference. A good rule of thumb: invite 20% more than your ideal count, as typically 15-20% of invited guests will decline. For destination weddings, expect a 30-50% decline rate. Use our Guest List Manager to estimate tables, catering costs, and venue size based on your count.

Send wedding invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding date, with an RSVP deadline of 3-4 weeks before. For destination weddings, send invitations 3 months in advance. Save-the-dates should go out 6-8 months before the wedding. Allow extra time for calligraphy addressing and assembly — order your invitations 4-6 months before the wedding to stay on schedule.

While not required, a wedding planner can save significant time, stress, and potentially money through vendor relationships and negotiation expertise. Full-service planners typically cost 10-15% of your total budget ($3,000-$10,000+) and handle everything from venue selection to day-of coordination. Alternatively, consider a day-of coordinator (starting around $1,500-$2,500) who manages logistics on the wedding day itself — this is the minimum professional help most experts recommend.

The most popular wedding months are June, September, and October, offering pleasant weather and beautiful scenery. However, off-peak months (January-March, November) can save you 20-40% on vendor costs with greater availability. Consider your local climate, outdoor vs. indoor preference, and whether holidays might conflict. Saturday is the most popular day, but Friday and Sunday weddings can save 10-20%.

Consider weather reliability, guest comfort, backup plans, and your aesthetic vision. Outdoor weddings offer natural beauty and incredible photography opportunities but require contingency plans for weather. Indoor venues provide climate control, reliable acoustics, and accessibility. Many couples choose venues that offer both options — an outdoor ceremony with an indoor reception, for example. Read our Complete Venue Guide for detailed comparison.

Review their portfolio for consistency in style (not just their best 10 shots), ask about their experience with similar venues and lighting conditions, understand their editing process and turnaround time, and check references from recent clients. Ensure their personality is a good fit — they'll be with you all day. Ask to see a full gallery from a recent wedding, not just curated highlights. See our Photography Guide for a complete list of questions to ask.

Standard tipping guidelines: Caterer/banquet manager 15-20% (check if gratuity is already included in the contract), bartenders $50-$150 each, DJ/band leader $50-$150, photographer $50-$200, hair and makeup artists 15-20% of their service fee, officiant $50-$100 (or a donation to their institution), transportation drivers 15-20%. Prepare labeled envelopes in advance and assign someone to distribute them.

Married couples, engaged couples, and couples living together should always receive a joint invitation. Long-term partners (6+ months) should ideally be included by name. For single guests, plus-ones are a courtesy but not required, especially with budget constraints. Be consistent with your policy across friend groups — if one college friend gets a plus-one, they all should. See our Etiquette Guide for more detail.

Start by grouping guests into categories (family, college friends, work friends, partner's family). Seat couples and families together, mix compatible friend groups to encourage mingling, and place older relatives away from speakers and the dance floor. Use round tables of 8-10 for best conversation flow. Start the chart 3-4 weeks before the wedding after RSVPs are in, and expect to revise it multiple times. Digital tools or sticky notes on poster board both work well.

Plated dinners feel more formal and elegant, with controlled portions and timing, typically costing $10-$30 more per person than buffets. Buffets offer variety and a relaxed atmosphere that encourages mingling. Food stations are a trendy middle ground — interactive and visually appealing. Your choice should match the formality, flow, and budget of your event. Read our Complete Menu Planning Guide for a detailed comparison.

Destination weddings average $25,000-$50,000 depending on the location, though they often have fewer guests (50-75 average), which can make the per-person experience more lavish. Popular destinations like Mexico and the Caribbean start around $10,000-$15,000 for the venue and basic packages, while European destinations may run $30,000+. Factor in site visits, guest welcome bags, and group activities. See our Destination Wedding Guide for a complete breakdown.

Set boundaries early and communicate them clearly with your partner first, then present them as united decisions to family. For divorced parents, plan seating strategically and give each family fair representation. If disagreements arise about guest lists or traditions, remember it's your wedding — compromise where you can but stand firm on what matters most to you both. Having a wedding planner or trusted friend as a buffer can prevent direct confrontation during stressful moments.